3 words
There are many things that you can
do to strengthen your relationships.
Often the most effective thing you
can do involves saying just three words.
When spoken sincerely, these statements
often have the power to develop
new friendships, deepen old ones and
even bring healing to relationships
that have sourerd.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.
1.Let
me help.
Good friends see a need and then try
to fill it. When they see a hurt
they do what they can to heal it.
Without being asked, they jump in and
help out.
2. I
understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each
other more when the other person
accepts and understands them. Letting
your spouse know - in so many
little ways - that you understand
them, is one of the most powerful tools
for healing your relationship. And
this can apply to any relationship.
3. I
respect you.
Respect is another way of showing
love. Respect demonstrates that another
person is a true equal. If you
talk to your children as if they were
adults you will strengthen the bonds
and become closer friends. This
applies to all interpersonal relationships.
4. I
miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved
and strengthened if couples simply
and sincerely said to each other "I
miss you." This powerful affirmation
tells partners they are wanted, needed,
desired and loved. Consider how
important you would feel, if you received
an unexpected phone call from
your spouse in the middle of your
workday, just to say "I miss you."
5. Maybe
you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing
an argument. The implication
when you say "maybe you're right"
is the humility of admitting, "maybe
I'm wrong". Let's face it.
When you have an argument with someone,
all you normally do is solidify the
other person's point of view. They,
or you, will not likely change their
position and you run the risk of seriously
damaging the relationship between
you. Saying "maybe you're right"
can open the door to explore the subject
more. You may then have the
opportunity to express your view in
a way that is understandable to
the other person.
6.
Please
forgive me.
Many broken relationships could be
restored and healed if people would
admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness.
All of us are vulnerable to
faults, foibles and failures. A man
should never be ashamed to own up that
he has been in the wrong, which is
saying, in other words, that he is
wiser today than he was yesterday.
7. I
thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of
courtesy. People who enjoy the
companionship of good, close friends
are those who don't take daily
courtesies for granted. They are quick
to thank their friends for their
many expressions of kindness. On the
other hand, people whose circle of
friends is severely constricted often
do not have the attitude of gratitude.
8. Count
on me.
A friend is one who walks in when
others walk out. Loyalty is an essential
ingredient for true friendship.
It is the emotional glue that bonds
people. Those that are rich
in their relationships tend to be steady and true
friends. When troubles come, a good
friend is there indicating "you can
count on me."
9. I'll
be there.
If you have ever had to call a friend
in the middle of the night, to take
a sick child to hospital, or when
your car has broken down some miles from
home, you will know how good it feels
to hear the phrase "I'll be there."
Being there for another person is
the greatest gift we can give. When we
are truly present for other people,
important things happen to them and
us. We are renewed in love and
friendship. We are restored emotionally
and spiritually. Being there is at
the very core of civility.
10. Go
for it.
We are all unique individuals. Don't
try to get your friends to conform to
your ideals. Support them in
pursuing their interests, no matter how far out
they seem to you. God has given
everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that
person only. Support and encourage
your friends to follow their dreams.
Tell them to "go for it."
B o n u s :
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone
that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The
need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse,
your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little
words: "I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling
is gone.
12. GOD
BLESS YOU!
(These are 3 words too, right?)
