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     3 words

 There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships.
 Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.
 When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop
 new friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships
 that have sourerd.

 The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

 1.Let me help.
 Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt
 they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and
 help out.

 2.  I understand you.
 People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person
 accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many
 little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools
 for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.

 3.  I respect you.
 Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another
 person is a true equal.  If you talk to your children as if they were
 adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends.  This
 applies to all interpersonal relationships.

 4.  I miss you.
 Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply
 and sincerely said to each other "I miss you."  This powerful affirmation
 tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.  Consider how
 important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from
 your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

5.  Maybe you're right.
 This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument.  The implication
 when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe
 I'm wrong".  Let's face it.  When you have an argument with someone,
 all you normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They,
 or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously
 damaging the relationship between you.  Saying "maybe you're right"
 can open the door to explore the subject more.  You may then have the
 opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to
 the other person.

 6. Please forgive me.
 Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would
 admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to
 faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that
 he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is
 wiser today than he was yesterday.

 7.   I thank you.
 Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the
 companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily
 courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their
 many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of
 friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

 8.  Count on me.
 A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential
 ingredient for true friendship.  It is the emotional glue that bonds
 people.  Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true
 friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can
 count on me."

 9.   I'll be there.
 If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take
 a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from
 home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there."
 Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we
 are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and
 us.  We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally
 and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

 10.  Go for it.
 We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to
 your ideals.  Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out
 they seem to you.  God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that
 person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams.
 Tell them to "go for it."

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11.  I love you.
 Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone
 that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The
 need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse,
 your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little
 words: "I love you."  Love is a choice.  You can love even when the feeling
is gone.

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